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“I will persist until I succeed. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult…. I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete any undertaking.”

Og Mandino

It strikes me that beyond the difficulty of getting started, it is even more of a challenge to keep going, to carry on and hang on in there. How many times have you started a project only to abandon it part way through? How many unfinished works-in-progress are tucked away in various corners of the house and your workplace. They are not exactly screaming at you to get finished, but the sense of them being there is very much like voices whispering at you. You see, the start was relatively easy. It’s the carrying on which will be the challenge.

How about you? What do you need to persist in? Have you got a project that you are part way through and you can feel yourself flagging? How do you need to motivate yourself to hang on in there?

If you feel that your resolve to see a project through is beginning to crumble, perhaps it is time to take a break, step back and remove yourself from the detail of the project for a short while. Sometimes just allowing yourself to have a breathing space, possibly by going out and taking a calming walk, can help to ease your sense of overwhelm. Distancing yourself for a while, although it can seem like a negative step, can often help to get you over the hurdles of carrying on. Also reminding yourself, and those you may be working with, what the ultimate goal is, can often refresh your enthusiasm for the tasks in hand.

What essential task has been slipping down the to-do list? What are you resisting doing? It may not necessarily be a large or even difficult task, but in your mind it may have grown into a problem of gargantuan proportions! It’s time to assess whether the pain of putting it off is worse than the pain of facing up to it and doing it. The other question to ask is, ‘Can I delegate this?’

What do you really want to achieve for yourself? Today? This week? This month? This year? Next year and beyond? Do you have a vision of how you would like things to be? Do you know how you are going to get there? Have you taken the first steps? And are you hanging on in there? Is your vision keeping you going? If it’s not, then it’s time to reassess your vision and choose another one that excites you.

When a task is beginning to create stress and distress, that is one of the times to give yourself a break. Doing something active will help to lower your stress levels, as well as increasing your fitness, so that you will be physically and mentally more able to cope with what awaits you. You can return to your task with renewed energy and vigor.

How did you come to be doing this project or task? Was it imposed on you by someone else, or did you choose to start it yourself? If it was given to you to do by someone else and you are struggling with maintaining your enthusiasm, how do you think you could get a sense of eagerness for the project? What do you need to inject some fresh interest? If someone else is able to help you do this, then go ahead and ask them. The worst that could happen is they could say ‘no’! If this is something that you chose to take on, then the same applies. What drew you to this in the first place? Just remembering that may be all it takes to give you a jump-start again.
What can you be doing every day to help move the project along? How is your time most profitably spent? Do you need to learn something new to assist you with what you are trying to achieve? If you need a break from work, sometimes doing something totally unrelated and creative can refresh you. Using your hands and mind in producing something purely for pleasure can calm you down and lower your stress levels. You will also end up with something you’ll enjoy looking at!

Sometimes carrying on seems to be the last thing you want to do. You may even think that you are putting in all the effort only to get nothing from it. Hanging on in there and seeing the project progress to the next stage and then the final stage can be tough under these circumstances, but if you really believe in what you are ultimately aiming to achieve, then it will not be for nothing. Keep the end in sight. Hang on in there!

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“The distance is nothing; it is only the first step that is difficult.” Madame Marie du Deffand

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“He (she) who endures to the end wins,” said the Chancellor of the University of Santa Monica during a visit to our graduate class. The statement stuck, and it has been true for me during my many years as a business owner, student, wife, mother and competitor.

Recently I gave a speech for a woman’s organization. As part of the package, I was offered a table on which to sell my products. The speech was a great success, the table another story! Unknown to me, the organization planned the business meeting and agenda items for presentation directly after my speech. The majority of attendees had arrived late due to a major traffic accident, missed networking and an opportunity to view my table before the evening’s program began.

It was late, I was tired, I was trapped. Short of offending folks by taking down my products table and leaving in the middle of their meeting, I could see no graceful way out of my dilemma. So, I waited, and I waited, and I waited some more. I watched the audience begin to trickle out as the night deepened, morning beckoned and the meeting droned on. Oh well, I thought, win some and lose some. At that thought, a small still voice within cautioned me, “The night isn’t over until you’re home. Be patient. Wait and see.”

What a concept. That evening I fell into a “why bother” trap. Have you ever been hungry, angry, lonely or tired AND have to perform in some way? I think we all have at one time or another. The challenge is to step back and change your attitude. I do it by commenting to myself, “SHow fascinating….this meeting is long, I’m tired, etc.” Distancing ourselves from the apparent upset and accepting that there is something fascinating to be learned moves us into a state of cooperation with the events as they unfold, rather than what we project they should be.

Sure enough, patience was the name of the game that evening. As the unwieldy business meeting, raffle and auction drew to a close, the president asked the audience to stop by my table. A short time later, I sold everything I brought with me, handed out information and re-connected with my audience. I was the last one to leave the room, satchel empty, pockets full.

He (she) wins who endures to the end. If you’re tired, over worked and out of patience, just take a moment - breathe in, breathe out and “wait and see.” It may be a cliché, but, “It ain’t over til it’s over.”

Copyright 2005 Lin Morel. You are welcome to use this article online in electronic newsletters and e-zines as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the “about the author” info).

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Too hard to start a business, you say? Think again. Does it take
sustained effort and discipline to start your own business?
Absolutely. Are you capable of exerting yourself that much?
Certainly. In fact, you’ve probably done it lots of times. You
remember in school how you had to work for hours, days and even
weeks on a single assignment? And for what? A good grade that
would contribute to your overall evaluation at the end of the
term? That’s nice, but has it netted you anything? Maybe you
went on to college and even graduate school… Talk about
sustained effort and discipline! It goes something like this…
You spend hours doing research in order to complete a project in
order to get a good grade on that assignment in order to get a
passing grade in the class in order to complete the semester
successfully in order to finally get a degree in order to have
to then start looking for a way to earn a living. Whew!!! Am I
anti-education? No, I truly am not. I do, believe, however, that
much of our effort is simply “jumping through hoops” that yield
little if any profitable returns. So why is it that many people
manage to jump through all of these hoops in order to make it
through school, but not nearly so many succeed in operating
their own home business? SUPPORT is the key. In school, you have
professors, advisors, peers, counselors, etc. who are there
dangling the tantalizing carrots in front of you each step of
the way. At your job, your boss, manager or supervisor does the
dangling. Or more likely threatens to withhold the carrot (your
paycheck) unless you continue to perform. And so you DO perform,
on time, come rain or shine, whether you feel like it or not,
etc. If you’re a “solo-preneur” as so many of us are, you have
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Remember one thing, though. We don’t get very far all on our
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you try to go at it alone. Fortunately, you are not alone. With
a little help from your friends, present and future, you DO,
indeed, have what it takes to succeed. Keep on truckin’, Friend.

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Starting and managing a business takes motivation and talent. It also takes research and planning. Although initial mistakes are not always fatal, it takes extra skill, discipline, and hard work to regain the advantage. Take time beforehand to explore and evaluate your business and personal goals, then use this information to build a comprehensive and thoughtful business plan that will help you reach these goals.

There are many things to consider if you are thinking about starting a home based business. It is very important to ask yourself important questions before you take the leap into a home based business.

Take into consideration do you have the motivation for starting a home based business, are you willing to sacrifice to make your dreams come true.

Are you one of those people who likes to stand around and talk to your fellow workers around the water cooler? If you are then a home based business is probably not for you.

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Self motivation is the biggest key to succeeding in your business. You will need the ability to push yourself forward and not to let things get into your head (family, friends, etc). You will have to be able to have the motivation to continue when things are not going the way you planned. Your drive and determination will be reinforced with every sale.

Your level of success will greatly depend on your motivation, the time and effort you are willing to put into your business. Your organization, marketing and planning will all be put into practice. You will need to be motivated to keep learning everything you can to make your business succeed.

You will now be your own boss. When you work at home it can become very easy to get the attitude that you can do what has to be done later. You will have to overcome this problem. Get yourself in a routine everyday, check your e-mail, learn new techniques for getting clients, make a list of what has to be done that day.

If you have to get in the car and drive around the block like you are on your way to work.
The goal here is to get you motivated to do whatever it takes to succeed.

I am not going to tell you this will be easy because it is not. I have done many business adventures. Some successful some not. The ones that were not I can look back and see that I lost motivation somewhere along the way.

Motivation is the key to getting your business off the ground and to keep it moving in the right direction. You will have good days and there will be bad days. But just keep in mind why you are doing this and you will do just fine.

To your success
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Jim Johnson owner of http://www.pc-webincome.com and publisher of Home Business Ideas And Tips Newsletter

Denial is a coping mechanism commonly used when something happens that we really don’t want to see. Doing this is actually quite natural. After all, we want to keep our lives in order, and we resist taking in information that we feel would result in a loss for us.

A certain amount of denial is actually healthy. For example, right now if you thought of all the bad things that could possibly happen in the important areas of your life, you would become anxious and depressed. Emotionally healthy people have the ability to focus on the things that are most encouraging and positive, thereby helping themselves stay motivated to deal with life. The truth is, this involves a level of denial.

However, beware of unhealthy denial. This happens when there is something that needs to be dealt with, but you choose to ignore it while it grows.

TYPES OF UNHEALTHY DENIAL

There are four basic types of denial that you may put into practice.

1. Denial of the existence of a problem. You can choose to completely ignore a situation. However, this denial is actually not completely successful. We know this because, after the situation comes to light, you look back at the things that have happened and ask, “Why didn’t I see it?”

   Think about it. You did see it, or you wouldn’t be able to remember it after the fact. It’s just that you screened it out of your awareness. You observed it, but you denied its connection to the real problem that existed.

2. Significance of the problem. Another form of denial involves acknowledging that there is a problem, but discounting its significance. For example, the developing alcoholic may tell himself, “Sure I drink sometimes, I can quit any time I want to.” The overbearing manager may tell herself, “Of course I get irritated. Who wouldn’t when employees don’t perform as they should?”
3. Denial of options available. In this case, you may acknowledge that there is a problem and that it is significant, but you may deny that there is any way that change can take place. You tell yourself, “There’s no use to try”, and you don’t.
4. Personal ability to change. Even when you have acknowledged that there is a significant problem and that there are some things that could possibly help, you may still deny your personal ability to change. Have you ever said things like this?

   “I was born this way.”

   “I got my temper from my father.”

   “I’ve tried before, and I can’t be successful.”

5. Time urgency. One last way that you can use denial to keep from dealing with a problem is to put it off. Does this sound familiar? “I’ll deal with this, just as soon as….” There never is a more convenient time.

HOW TO CONFRONT YOUR OWN DENIAL

If you saw yourself in any of these scenarios, and you realized that you are in denial about some behavior pattern that you really need to change, what can you do about it? Here are some suggestions.

1. Examine and acknowledge those areas in which you are not being honest with yourself. What are the thoughts or situations you’ve been trying to avoid because they remind you of something that you need to do? What kinds of statements about others have you rejected defensively because they hit too close to home?
2. Focus on the things you’ve tried to ignore.Look for the truth in those things you’ve been trying to ignore and avoid. Is there some truth in what people have been telling you? If so, what do you plan to do about it?
3. Allow yourself to feel and experience the truth. It’s not pleasant to face aspects of yourself that you’d rather not see. Don’t be surprised if you feel some embarrassment and depression when you first begin to make progress in confronting your denial.
4. Don’t procrastinate. The longer you put off doing something about the situation you’ve been avoiding, the easier it is to slide back into denial. Courageously face your own behavior, make a plan to improve it, and stay with that plan through the struggle of forming new habits.

   Disappointments, setbacks, and unwelcome changes are a fact of life. Some people are able bounce back easily and actually become stronger as they meet the challenges of life. Others grow weaker and less optimistic as the experiences of life accumulate. What makes the difference between these people? One factor is the ability to be honest with oneself.

   Do you have that kind of courage?

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I have no doubt that there are many people out there who are searching for ways of improving their overall quality of life. We have no divine right to be happy of course but on the other hand we should not just sit back and accept second best. I am the type of person who basically just wants to be happy, I have no desire to become mega rich, but what I am looking for, and at the moment have achieved, is an inner peace.

When looking into ways and ideas of improving my life, I ask myself a series of questions:

What areas of my life am I not happy with?

What can I do to improve my life?

Am I happy with my current role of employment?

Am I happy with my current financial situation?

Am I happy in the relationship that I have with my girlfriend?

How could my life become easier and more stress-free?

These are just a few of many questions that I ask myself and I have listed them purely as an example.

In the past, I would always become quite stressed at around the start of the year. This was because I have a son who has a birthday in November, then of course in December is the celebration of Christmas. These two events would leave me with a bit of a financial headache as I have to admit that I tend to spoil my family and go a bit overboard on the spending.

I did not want to reduce the amount that I spent on their presents or on the social aspect of Christmas or my sons birthday and instead started to look for a solution to this financial stress which as previously stated would occur in January.

What I eventually decided that I would do, which now seems just like common sense, was to save as much as I could every month. I would have a certain figure in mind that I wanted to save, as I was aware that I needed to live and have some fun throughout the year as well. By the time November came around on the next year, I had rather a nice amount of money in the bank, which basically made both events even more enjoyable than previous years. This was because I had an inner peace of mind. When January came around I was fine as I had no debts or financial worries. This form of saving is something that I now do every year.

With each and every question I ask myself, I always attempt to find a solution similar to the way I did in the above example. If my girlfriend is annoying me for whatever reason I try and talk to her. I tell her what the issues are and also ask if there is anything that I am doing that annoys her. This is done in a very light hearted manner, so as to not cause more damage etc.

I have now reached a stage of my life where I am quite content with what I have. I am able to sleep soundly at night and am very much looking forward to the future. I have achieved an inner peace and now just have to work hard to make it stay that way. Life at times is a battle and the negative part of my brain tries hard to ruin me. I am determined to stay strong and focused to ensure that I ignore this negative voice and that I continue to listen to the positive side of my brain.

If you are one of these people who are not happy or content with your life at the moment, I am sure that by asking yourself a series of questions and then trying to find your own solutions, that you will also be able to find your own inner peace.

I assume you want to be happier. Searching for greater happiness is a wonderful thing whatever level of happiness you are currently at. It could be that you are already enjoying life and just searching for a new idea, or it could be that you have felt negative towards life or the experiences life has dealt you. If you feel in anyway negative about life I would like to share something with you.

It is human nature to take a look at the darker side of life. I have often dwelt on this side. I’ve found that in this negative place I often feel a greater sense of hopelessness and loss. I believe when we have had a traumatic experience it is right that we should feel this way for a time. Perhaps it has been right for you to feel this way. Perhaps it was part of the healing process for whatever you have been through up until now. Perhaps looking at the negative side of life has served you well up until now - as a form of protection - but I think that in the long run that it would be wrong and harmful to your health, and life, for you continue with these thoughts once you have acknowledged that they exist. Let me expand on why I believe this.

Whatever life has dealt you, however bad things were or are; there has been a lesson for you to learn from that experience. If you are still in a situation that makes you unhappy it would be wise to review it and see what you can do to leave it or alleviate the pain and frustration from it. In the ending of an unhappy experience you are released and presented with something that can be used to make everyday from here onwards happier… and that something can be summed up in one word…

Out of your hardship, out of your hopelessness and feeling of being lost you will find ‘opportunity’, opportunity to be free of all the hardship of the past, an opportunity to rediscover yourself, an opportunity to do all the things you might like to have done but could not or did not do before. Let me give you an example of the day a thought about an opportunity came.

The thought came as a shock, so out of place with the rest of my thoughts that day that I stopped what I was doing instantly. A few seconds passed and then I began to laugh like I hadn’t laughed in years.

I had been upset. I had been dwelling on the down side of my relationship break-up. In particular I had been regretting so many wasted years. I was feeling just awful when the thought I am telling you about travelled through my brain like an express train. The thought was this:

“I am a lucky man, in an enviable position and I’m a free
to create the most incredible relationship with the most
incredible woman I’ve ever met.”

Until that moment I had no idea that the break-up of my relationship had a positive side, but that realisation made me laugh. That realisation reshaped my day. In fact it did a lot more than that…

Over the next few days I still had plenty of moments when I thought about all the things that hurt me. The good thing was though that the “I’m a lucky man…’ thoughts kept returning. I realise now that what I had begun to do was let go of my attachment to my past relationship.
I begun to spend time sitting down with my eyes shut and repeating the thoughts that I was now free to create the most incredible relationship. As I did this it was like cords breaking. The heartache and pain subsided gradually over the following days and I began to feel somehow lighter, like a little of my pain had been lifted off.

Within four months that incredible relationship began to unfold. First I met this wonderful woman. We became close friends and from there the magic has just continued to unfold.

Try this:

For a moment close your eyes. Think about one thing that is causing you heart-ache. Now, be playful and imagine that this pain is in fact a great opportunity. Smile as you think about the opportunity that is now available to you right now. It may be a relationship. It may be a change of job. Whatever it is, just remember that as one door closes another opens…

This article is an extract from Neil Millar’s ‘Greater Steps to Happiness’. Visit http://www.neilmillar.net and find out how to join Neil’s fast-growing readership and obtain a free copy of this e-book.

You have the power to attract and repel anything in life you want! It’s all in your hands. Contentment, happiness, and joy are right around the corner. Hang in here with me; some of this is going to go against the grain of previous thinking.

The Moment Of Truth!

Regardless of whom you are, you are unique, you are special, and you are a wonderful person. Yet, certain people may not think so. :>) if you feel that they react negatively and offensively to many things that you say and do, you may discover some insight here: They are just as human as you are.

You might not want to believe this but; everything that makes you special makes them special. If something offends you, it might also offend them. If something influences you, in some given manner, the same thing might also influence them.

Undesirable reactions on the part of others could be due to what you say and how you say it. Or, it could be because of inner attitudes and your true inner feelings.

The spoken word is often a reflection of the hidden thoughts and attitude of the mind. It may be difficult at times to realize that the fault lies with you. And, it can be just as difficult to initiate a change when you do realize that the fault lies with you.

A Little Difference Makes A Big Difference!

There is a very little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it’s positive or negative.

People who want to be happy make the decision to have a positive attitude. People who have a negative attitude, many times, think they have a positive attitude and repel the very happiness they are trying to achieve.

What they attract is unhappiness and go around scratching their head trying to figure out who busted their chops. They don’t recognize it, but a negative attitude is what robbed them of their happiness.

It Just Goes To Show!

Most people don’t really give much thought to “happiness”. They just observe whether or not they are. Most people will try to obtain happiness by searching for it. Most fall flat on their face.

You see, happiness is not obtained by searching for it. Happiness is not obtained by acquiring things like money. I know; I can hear someone now saying, “You’re speaking heresy”! Now listen. There are rich people all over the world that are miserable. And, if you set out to make yourself happy, you will find happiness to be very elusive.

One of the surest ways to obtain happiness is to bring happiness to someone else; when you do this, happiness comes to you. What happens is; it turns on the attraction mechanism and you can’t beat it off with a stick.

Raining Cats And Dogs!

The more you share happiness, the more you will get. But, if you share unhappiness and misery you will get back unhappiness and misery. Sounds logical right? Have you ever known someone who was constantly in trouble? I’m not talking about “opportunities” in disguise.

I’m talking about the person that no matter what happens to him it just isn’t good. This guy will find gasoline in his water bucket if he needs to put out a fire. The reason is; this type of person is always sharing his troubles with someone else.

What happens then? Others begin to avoid him which just makes his unhappiness worse. Other people know if they get around him all they will hear is, “woe is me”.

Whether he will admit it or not, He is trying to get happy by making others feel sorry for him. And maybe they will do something to “fix” his unhappiness; although, he won’t admit he is unhappy.

Someday My Ship Will Come In!

These are the kind of people who long for happiness and love but never seem to get it. They are repelling the very thing they yearn for with a trouble mentality. They just secretly hope that something good will someday somehow come their way.

Take notice of a conflict sometime between two people. If two forceful personalities are similar you can determine that one personality will respond in the same way the other responds.

It’s amazing; one harsh word spoken brings another harsh word. One soft word spoken brings another soft word. For these two personalities to get along in harmony, one will need to develop a mindset of a peacemaker. There will be no harmony until one does so, just a lot of bickering.

Getting To The Top!

The simplest illustration of making this work is that of a salesman and his customer. Every salesman is doing his best to create feelings of happiness and trust in another person. He won’t be able to do that by rubbing where there’s already a rash.

And, that’s where the problem is in most cases. We try to “rub another person’s rash”. They need honey not vinegar. So, we try to achieve our “happiness” by causing others to do what we want; instead of giving them what they want.

It just seems normal to get what we want by force, power, position, authority, etc. All we end up with most times is a can of worms. In the heat of battle, it seems backwards to do otherwise.

So, we put on the boxing gloves and come out swinging. The salesman by contrast, if he has any training at all, will come out with his silver lined tongue all prepared to bathe us in honey and promise us whatever will give us our hearts desire.

Now think about it. If the sale is made, who won? They both did. Who got happy? They both did. Who got what they wanted? They both did. Who laughed all the way to the bank? They both did.

Now just imagine how you could persuade your teenager to clean his room by using the salesman strategy. The point is; we have within us the power to attract everything we want or, repel it into the bottomless pit.

When we get what we desire, we get happy. When we give others something that they feel will make them happy, then happiness comes back to us in waves.

So, what comes first is the sharing of something good and desirable with someone else. Then, something good and desirable that we seek will come back to us.

An Ace Up His Sleeve!

This type of salesman strategy is difficult to adopt. The salesman says the customer is always right. The salesman says there is something that the customer wants and, I have to find a way to give it to him and then I will get what I want.

Think about this: If you find that you are offended when someone yells at you or speaks in a harsh way, you can be sure that someone else is offended by it also, even if it is your five year old son.

Everyone has emotions that need to be stroked. To get what we want we find a way to give them what they want. That’s not to say we let them do whatever they want. Not even a salesman can do that. There will be some things about the product that can’t be compromised. But, that doesn’t stop a sale from being made.

A good persuader will find a way to give the other person what they want and at the same time give themselves what is desirable. If you like being complimented, then it is safe to believe others will like it also.

What Goes Around Comes Around!

So, can happiness be attracted? Can unhappiness be attracted? The answer to both questions is yes. Happiness is attracted by sharing happiness with others. Unhappiness is attracted by spreading trouble, domineering and manipulative attitudes, and imposing selfish desires with no concern of returning something of value to the other person. It’s the, “all about me attitude”.

Richard Vegas ©

About The Author

Richard Vegas is a popular recording artist and internet marketing professional. He invites you to subscribe to his FREE weekly ezine “Wing-Tips” Teaching The Success System That Never Fails, at: http://www.1-work-at-home-based-business-opportunities.com. You may also hear some of Richard’s free music at: http://www.richardvegas.com.

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